For a nice change of pace, however, pick up Tim Sanders’, “The Likeability Factor“.
The Likeability Factor touches on this one simple fact: The more you are liked—or the higher your likeability factor—the happier your life will be. Sanders touches on enhancing 4 critical areas of your personality:
- Friendliness: Are you really giving off an aura that says, “I am friendly”? Or are you subconsciously pushing people away by your actions?
- Relevance: It is one thing to have someone tell you they like your shirt (yes, this is friendly). How about being extremely relevant towards other by tapping into their wants and needs on a personal or professional level? Think: How can I help this person pursue their dreams?
- Empathy: Can you recognize someone else’s feelings? Instead of saying, “I know how you feel, I’ve been there.” Go the next level by being there on a consistent basis when that person needs a listener and helper.
- Realness: We all know a ‘fake’ when we see one. Be authentic in thought, word, and deed. The smallest things can have the biggest impact. Keep your appointments, promises, and committments. If you do, you will stand out from the crowd.
There’s nothing truly revolutionary in this book, but I found it a sterling reminder and a good read for anyone who is interested in becoming more likeable.